How Do i Do a Will Stronger? What is Confidence? How to get a will made out of Iron? How can i Get Self Confidence ? Answers are here... Keep Reading !

You want your will to be stronger? You wonder how do i do a will stronger? What is confidence? How to get self confidence with girls / boys? Well keep reading...

In most of the people feelings and thoughts about them self fluctuating dependable on daily activities and events that they passing trough. Grade that someone gets on exam, the way that your husband and boyfriend (wife/girlfriend) treats you, rises and falls - all of that have temporary influence on our mood and our thinking.

But, self confidence is something more stable that normal change of mood, it can be changed also, but a lot slower. People that has normal dose of self confidence, rises and falls temporary affect in their self esteem and personal picture about them self, but just to some limits. On the other hand, to people with low self esteem, those ordinary successes and failures do big difference.

People with low self esteem, People with low self confidence mostly rely on what they do at a particular moment so they determine what they feel about them self. They need positive experience from their surrounding so they neutralize negative thoughts and feelings in them self, that constantly torture them. Even then (good grade, success in other fields) the positive feelings are just temporary.

People with high level of self picture about them self is based on knowing them self and their qualities. They constantly and unconditional accept them self. That means that they are capable of real accepting their cons and pros, aware of their power, but limits too, and in same time they accept them self as valuable persons, unconditional and regardless of some failures from time to time.

Our self confidence develops through our whole life, the picture about ourselves we build trough our experiences with other people and activities that we are involved into. When we are grown up our successes and failures, the way we are treated from our family, people around us, teachers, trainers, authorities, colleges, friends is also affecting how our self confidence will be.

But bases of self confidence are made, mostly, in our childhood.

Experiences from childhood that leads to high self confidence and self esteem are:

  - rewards

  - if you listen to your kid

  - if you talk with your kid with respect

  - if you give your kid enough love and attention

  - good experiences in school or in sport activities

  - reliable friendships

Experiences from childhood that leads to low self confidence and self esteem are:

  - constant critics

  - if the child is always yelled at or being molested (beaten)

  - if the child being ignored, neglect or even spoiled

  - failures or bad grades at school or sport activities

People with low self confidence, if they fail in something (lost game, got bad grade, etc), they received negative comments that they are incapable, their person and acts were not distinguished, instead they were being equalized. Our experiences from the past, even those that we are not able to remember, are active and live within us, and we are listening to them as our inner voice. Even most of the people are not listening to their inner voice in the way that they listen communication with other person, our inner voice constantly repeating some message to us.

To people with healthy self confidence, messages from inner voice are positive and cheering. To people with low self confidence inner voice messages are always critics, punishes, insults and lowering achievements.

Most of us can assume how low self confidence person looks like, but its not always easy to recognize. I am gonna name you three most ordinary examples of persons, that have low self confidence.

Cheater - he looks like happy and successful, but she/he is actually terribly afraid of failure. Lives in constant fear that he/shes gonna be "exposed". He/She needs to constantly prove himself / herself so he/she keeps positive self confidence, which, of course, leads to problems like perfectionism, constant delaying, competition mood, and in the end it can lead to complete exhaustion or break.

Rebel - Always fights for the interest and good for others, especially for those things that rich and powerful people don't care. Lives in constant anger and have feeling that hes/shes not worth enough. She/He constantly need to prove how other people comments can't reach to him/her, and that leads to excessive transfer of guilt to other people, which again leads to opposition to the law, demonstrative statements, etc.

Loser - Behaves helpless and as hes/shes incapable of carrying himself trough the life and everyday challenges, and waits for someone to "save" him. Using his/her self pity as shield against taking responsibility for changing his/her life. He/She always needs others protection and leading, which leads to minor capability of making decision, underestimating his own success, and obsessive reliance to his/her partner.

 Low self confidence has pretty bad unwanted consequences:

  - creating anxiety, stress, feeling of being lonely, increasing chances for developing a depression.

  - Making problems with relations with other people and relationships.

  - It can seriously threat to their education and work.

  - It can lead to underestimating their capability and not achieving their opportunities.

  - Increasing emotional vulnerability and drug and alcohol addiction.

And the worse above all of those, low self confidence, constantly leads to increasing negative picture about yourself, and the person is falling lower and lower or even starting to behave self destructive.

You keep wondering yourself: How to get will made out of Iron? How can i get self confidence? How do i get confidence generally? Well here are the answers...

How do i do a will and confidence getting stronger in 3 steppes:

Before you start working on increasing your self confidence you must believe how you can change. The changes are not immediate and easy, but they happen if you want to make "better me". Once you accept or in small hand, show some will at changing your current state, these 3 steps can help you.

  1 - Prove The Inner Critic that hes wrong !

  2 - Practice self-nurture

  3 - Ask for help

1 - Prove your Inner Critic that hes wrong

First and most important step to increase your self confidence is to face your negative thoughts and critical messages from your inner voice. I will point you couple typical examples how to silence your inner critic:

Example 1. - Injustice hardness (austerity) to yourself change with praises.

Quote : "People liked my presentation, but it wasn't even close to what i was imagining it would be. I can't believe how no one noticed all my mistakes and how much is screwed it up. I am so ineffective and incapable !"

Change it with: "They really liked my presentation. Maybe it wasn't that perfect, but i was really challenged and i think i did a very good job. I am proud of myself. This was real success!"

Example 2. - Generalizing change with specific criticism.

Quote : "I failed at exam. I can't understand anything that professor is talking. I am so dumb. Who am i fooling, i should not study this at first place. I am such a idiot for a school and worse than any of my colleges"

Change with :  "I was bad at this exam, but now i saw where my mistakes were. There are some things that i don't understand best but i should invest some additional effort and time so i be able to reach my colleges."

Example 3. - Negative Logic change with Positive Logic. 

Quote :  "I see that hes not satisfied. He didn't said anything but i know by myself that it means that he don't like me."

Change with : "I see that hes not satisfied, but i don't know why. Maybe there is no connection between that and me. Let me ask."

Example 4. - Catastrophic predictions change with objectivity.

Quote : "When i asked her for a date, she refused me. I am so embarrassed and i feel humiliated. No one likes me. I will never find a girl. I will end up lonely and old."

Change with : "Ooo. Its not easy. It hurts. She don't like to go out with me, but that doesn't mean that someone else won't like either. I know that i am attractive and dear person. I will find someone else for me for sure !"

2 - Practice self-nurture.

Silencing your inner critic is very important step, but that is not enough. Other base of our low self confidence is on how people treated us in the past, so next step in raising our self confidence will be treating ourselves as valuable persons.

Face with your negative experiences and messages and start nurture yourself and care about yourself on way that you gonna show yourselves how valuable, competent you are and how you deserve the best and that you are worth being loved.

  - Basic care about yourself

Sleep enough, eat regular, make a workout training schedule, care about your hygiene, etc

  - Plan fun and relaxing things

You can walk to a cinema, lie down, go to massage, go to ZOO, get some pet, learn how to meditate...

  - Reward yourself for your successes

Take a day off after successful finished task, spend enough time with your family, friends, congratulate yourself for your finished tough phone call, or something like that...

  - Remind yourself of your successes and qualities often

One of the way is to make list of the things you like about yourself. Other way is to keep certificates, praises, positive letters and congratulation cards. Keep those things that you are proud of in places where you can see them.

  - Forgive yourself if you don't fulfill your expectations

Self-nurture can be surprisingly hard if you are not used to. You MUST NOT be critic to yourself. Remind yourself at the first step of my guide.

  - Reward yourself even when you think you are not deserving it

Fake until you succeed. If you treat yourself as you succeeded, slowly you gonna achieve that in what you believe.

3 - Ask for Help

Help other people is very important step in increasing self confidence, but its hardest one mostly. People with low self confidence very rarely is looking for support or help because they think they don't deserve it. But, in this case, low self confidence is reflection on that how people were treating you in the past, you need positive support so you overcome negative experiences from the past.

Let me give you couple examples on what help i was thinking off:

  - Ask your friends what they like on you and what they think you are doing good.

  - Find person that cares about you and that will listen to your complains and your troubles with judging you or gives you critics

  - Ask for hug.

  - Person that really loves you, ask her/him to tell you that.

If you still have something not clear, or you need someone to help you, or you want to talk with someone about your problems without criticism and judging, or just a small chat... Don't hesitate to message me on Message.Me.Here.For.Free@gmail.com or Leave comment on the blog.
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Thank you for reading and Good Luck in getting everything you want with your strong self confidence! Believe in yourself... Because i DO ! :)

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Build a Exercise Routine to First Answer for the Question: How Do I Get Confidence ?!

First Answer to the Famous Question: How do I Get Confidence?!

You want a good Self-Confidence and Attract Everyone Around You Easy with your Attitude and Positive Energy? Then Keep Reading and make a Exercise Routine to these methods bellow.

Here i will describe you couple practical examples that will serve you to to increase your self-confidence a lot ! I am not able to BOLD that much how much its important to work on increasing your self-confidence. If you think a bit deeper for a moment, you will see that lower self-confidence is reason for anxiety and panic attacks also, beside of  other bad things that comes with bad self-confidence like: you can't approach the woman you love, you can't say your thoughts loudly, you are always the guy/girl that need to obey something, you are very bad commander, manager, administrator... Well you've heard all these from before already... so if you want to improve yourself... the methods that i explain bellow should be a exercise routine for your brain every day. Read these techniques every day... and PRACTICE THEM ! Without practicing... you can read 100 times this article / day and still you won't achieve anything.

Okay enough talking lets move on to the techniques.

• Ask yourself: What is the worse result that can happen in a given situation?

Pretty often we care about things that won't even happen in reality - we care in advance. Its very important to channel our energy from care into something more useful, more creative, for example, to create better connections with other people, to make progress in our career, etc

•  Disarm that Negative Voice inside of you!

Negative thinking that you probably practice, its keeping your self-confidence on low levels constantly. Imagine that you have Volume Bar in your head (like on some mp3 / CD player) and try to lower that voice to minimum or zero. You will do that if you keep practicing to not take for granted everything that the negative voice is telling to you. Its very necessary to not take serious that negativity, but to laugh on everything that the negative voice is telling to you.

• If you do something for the first time, you should think like you've done that before !

 People are generally scared of new things, so if they do something for the first time, they usually don't achieve success. So, trick your mind, close your eyes and think like you've done that thing successfully in the past. You should feel the excitement in advance of finishing that task successfully!

• Find person with big self-confidence, and try to learn something from him !

DON'T TRY TO IMITATE that person, but try to focus on finding what is that thing that makes him finishing everything very easy, which beliefs she/he has, her/his qualities, attitudes, etc... If you are able to talk to the person, feel free to ask him whatever you are interested in.

• Act like you already have those qualities / properties that you wanna achieve / have !

Ask yourself, how it would be, how would you feel, what would you do, how would you talk, what properties would you have if you already have that great self-confidence. DO THIS EVERY DAY, and you will notice day by day that you have, actually, stopped pretending and that you actually have all that self-confidence.

• Project yourself in the future and ask yourself if the problem you are facing is really that scary as you were thinking !

 Imagine yourself far in the future and ask yourself, how important it is some situation from the past (the problem/situation that now you are scared of). I am sure that you won't be even able to remember that situation from the past.

• If you hesitate or rounding around about doing something, chances are around 100% that you won't do it !

How do you know that you have succeeded if you never tried of doing something?  For succeeding and getting something, you must risk and sacrifice something! Don't be shy to ask about something that you need. Actually keep challenging yourself to ask things that you are usually afraid or shy of asking ! If you keep working on that, people will actually start answering in your questions and demands. It's very important to be strong and never give up !

• Try to not push your mood into happiness whole the time and don't try to feel good all the time !

Think a bit for a moment and check which things makes you happy and feel good. Then focus on those things and try to practice them as much as you can ! Example and my advice of those things would be: listening music, thinking of happy moments from your past, thinking about wonderful moments with someone that you love and care about, etc... Those things will make you feel happy and good in your skin.

• Don't try to watch every step of you, and everything you do.

Trying to keep guard on yourself for what you do all the time will make your self-confidence even lower and will give you even bigger troubles than before. Instead of keep watching yourself and thinking about yourself, find something that you can watch and observe every day. The important thing is to keep your attention off you.  One more important thing is try to not get bored, because then you gonna start thinking about yourself. Find something that will keep your attention focused, that will make you happy while you do that, so you don't have much time for thinking about yourself, for example, read books, play some games, call some friend and go for some coffee to chat a bit, or some similar things that fit your lifestyle.

• Don't take negative criticism from others (and from you) for granted all the time !

Don't forget that people with high self-confidence are not perfect either... NO ONE IS PERFECT ! Maybe you keep thinking with negativity about yourself but don't forget that, thinking negative about yourself is already destroying your picture about yourself even more. When you start thinking negative about yourself, keep reminding yourself that, everything is not that black, and that won't be that bad always. Things will turn out better, BELIEVE IN THAT !

• When you achieve or succeed in something, don't behave like you had luck, like it was accident, or something similar !

Try to be thankful to yourself that you've succeed in something, that you achieved something, with your talents and your skills. Start to believe in yourself and give greater value to your talents and skills. And in other side, when you fail at doing something, don't make drama out of that, we know that its temporary, and that if you've learned anything out of that, you gonna do it better next time and you will 100% succeed in same thing in the future !

Advices written here were made to answer the question How Do I Get Confidence... and you must make a Exercise Routine and PRACTICE THEM every day constantly in order to improve yourself and to prove yourself that you are actually a successful in everything you do ! You must make training workout schedule about these advices, you can even put them on sticker and read them every day on regular basis. 

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Thank you for reading this and i wish you good luck in your life with your new claimed self-confidence ;)

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